"Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them fuckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.
Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.
That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?
The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure."
this is literally so insanely fucking important fucking hell fuckity fuckkkkkk
Watch this video from Cadillac. Note a few things (actor, white, rich guy, workaholic, typical cocky American, very unrealistic). This is not a parody video, they’re being completely serious.
I can’t explain it very well just please watch both of these videos okay Ford burns Cadillac so bad okay it’s so good.
"That’s the upside of giving a damn."
You better hope winter is coming, bitch. You’re gonna need it for that burn.
Ford fucking laying down the damn law.
Ha! Go Ford.
Oh my god, FORD
"We don’t actually say what we’re thinking, not deliberately, not consciously. We’re revealing and guarding at the same time. You hear it, every day, in the way people say other people’s names. If someone fancies someone, but hasn’t said so out loud - and might not even be hugely conscious of it themselves - the way that they say that person’s name just gives it away.”
- Russell T Davies in Doctor Who: The Writer’s tale
WHY DOES NO ONE SEE MARTHA JONES AS AN AMAZING ROLE MODEL FOR YOUNG WOMEN
She’s tough, and she shows her feelings
She’s intelligent, and she’s emotional
She loves her family, and she’s pursued her dream career
She got herself out of a relationship she viewed as…
The Doctor: I’ve done plenty of that—travelling on my own. I love it! Do what you want, go anywhere.
Sky Silvestry: I’m still getting used to it. I found myself single rather recently, not by choice.
The Doctor: What happened?
Sky: Oh the usual. She needed her own…
“From the moment they meet, the Doctor and Rose are soul mates. They understand and complement each other.” - Russell T. Davies
“He’s a very damaged and closed man. She brings that out of him. She brings him back to life. She widens his horizons.” - Russell T. Davies